Bigger Pants, Bigger Life – Weekend Workshop

weekend workshop - full recovery


For a really long time, I believed that I could achieve recovery by just wanting it bad enough. I would casually attend my therapy sessions, and do some of the at home work they assigned. Our sessions were productive, but I was not making much progress toward full recovery.

I am not sure what finally clicked, but I realized that in order to fully recover, hard work was needed. I started taking her challenges and at home work more seriously. As a result of my new effort, I saw increased progress. I began hitting milestones in recovery that I never imagined I would hit.

Burning the Pants.

One of my favorite challenges I have ever done was the burning of the pants. For so long I held on to a pair of pants as a sign that I was still skinny enough. My therapist was always telling me to get rid of such items in my life. I thought it was so silly. One day I was trying to squeeze into the pants and found myself feeling angry at myself for not fitting into them better. Then it hit me, I thought, “What the heck am I doing? This is so stupid. I have to get rid of these pants!” So, I decided to burn them.

Here is my experience…. make sure you watch both videos.


This was, hands down, one of the most liberating experiences of my life. After the camera turned off, I cried for a good 15 minutes. I never thought I would burn those pants…. but it was more than just burning a pair of old jeans…I never thought burning those pants would help me release my tight grip on the overzealous desire to be thin. Burning the pants sparked my drive and energy to recover.

Do Your Hard Work.

Perhaps you are holding back in your recovery as well. What is stopping you from a full recovery? What hard work do you need to do? Is there something you need to let go of?

I challenge you this weekend, to take a step that you have been putting off. You know what it is. There is something that you know would propel your recovery, it is probably very hard, but you need to do it.

Perhaps, like me, you need to get rid of your “skinny” clothes. Maybe your big step is telling your spouse or a loved one that you have a problem and that you need help. Perhaps your big step is setting up an appointment to see a counselor, or setting time aside for yourself to exercise, read, or write. Maybe your big step is getting rid of a toxic relationship, or setting a boundary with a coworker.

I don’t know what you are personally going through, so I can’t decide what this step is, but you can. Deep down you know the hard work that is required to make progress toward a full recovery.

I believe in you. The first step is the hardest, but it also gives you the most strength and belief in yourself.

Roasting marshmallows over the burning pants


With all the love and hope in the world, I wish you courage and a belief in yourself this weekend as you begin your full recovery.



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